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Cop Files Lawsuit Claiming Command Wanted Him to ‘Tone Down’ His ‘Gayness’


A longtime St. Louis County police officer filed a discrimination lawsuit claiming the department command passed him over for promotion multiple times because he was a gay man.

The St. Louis Post Dispatch obtained a copy of the lawsuit that was filed last month in state court in Missouri.

The lawsuit alleges 22-year St. Louis County Police Department Sgt. Keith Wildhaber was told by a former St. Louis County Police Board member, “The command has a problem with your sexuality.  If you ever want to see a white shirt [meaning a promotion in the ranks], you should tone down your gayness.”

Wildhaber says he received the third highest score on the lieutenant exam, but was repeatedly passed over, sometimes by lesser qualified candidates, as the result of his sexuality.

“[The Department command] believes plaintiff’s behavior, mannerisms, and/or appearance do not fit the stereotypical norms of what a ‘male’ should be,” Wildhaber claims in the lawsuit.

The newspaper reached out to the former Police Board member to ask about the alleged remarks he made to Wildhaber.  However, the former Board Member denied ever making such remarks.

“I never had a conversation like that,” the former Board Member said. “I would never say anything like that.”

Wildhaber first filed a complaint about being passed over with the Missouri Human Rights Commission in April 2016 and he claims that caused him to be demoted to desk duty at a station located more than 20 miles from his home.

He did not comment on the lawsuit when the newspaper attempted to reach him.  The St. Louis County Police Department also reportedly declined to comment on the allegations made in the lawsuit.

[image via St. Louis County]

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